I feel like this is an issue that needs to be addressed. I'm a firm believer in fat acceptance, even though there's not much of it out there. I feel like the fact that overweight people get made of fun daily, is overlooked. I wanna change that. I wanna be the one to stand against bullying of overweight people. If racism is frowned upon, why isn't bullying? It all hurts the same. I can't count how many times I've been laughed at, made fun, put notes on my back, yelled at from a distance hurtful names. But those words and actions, have made me who I am today. I decided to look past those comments and become the bigger person. No pun intended ;) Yeah, I am fat, but I'm not disgusting, I'm not lazy, I'm not unhealthy, and no I don't sit on my couch all day and eat donuts. These are all stereotypes of fat people, unfortunately. It's time to do something about the cruel words being sad about those who are overweight. We were raised that "fat is bad". Most monsters, evil people, bad guys on television and movies are overweight and ugly. Little mermaid? Ursula is fat. Spongebob? Mrs Puff is fat. Star wars? Jabba the Hut is fat. I could go on and on. If I could have one wish, it would for everyone to look past what's on the outside and get to know a person before they judge them. Ladies, if you're overweight, a little chunky, skinny, have that "ten pounds to lose", or if you're obese, love yourself; I dare you.
I dream of initiating a true movement. One where women of all shapes, sizes, styles, and back grounds TRULY support and motivate each other. A world, where women could trust each other, rely and RESPECT one another. Kind of like the friendship the girls have on Sex in the City.
ReplyDeleteHowever even if you aren't friends,because we don't all mesh, stop hating on one another, stop being bullies, beating people up, dropping friends for men. Truly learn to love yourself. A world where women really encourage and seek self respect. A world in which big girls do NOT have to settle, for men, marriages, jobs, friends, hobbies, ect.
A world that can see a thick girl as a "trophy wife" and not just a blonde size 2.
This is what I dream of, and hope to accomplish, even in the smallest form.
I have also been bullied, to the extreme my entire life. I can honestly say its gotten out of hand in the last few years. Its like the more I start to love and accept who I am, the more other people hate me. It doesn't matter what I do. Insecure girls (which sadly is a majority) absolutely cannot stand that i can actually be real, and myself, and still love myself.
I have really bad days, Saturday night was one of them. I felt so discouraged and depressed about my appearance, after I got up in front of people and danced all night. Ridiculous.
I hate how other people get to me, and that I am so sensitive. Its me though, and I have to learn to accept it.
I've experienced the meanest girls, and lamest men in an environment that is supposed to be "size accepting". It's sad, I wish all those women empowered each other, instead of being mean and competitive Imagine the things that could be accomplished?
This is a long rant, my apologies. Samantha with age you will truly become the woman you were intended, you will love yourself more, and with that there will be more haters. So stay strong and have a good therapist.
xoxo
Nicole
Nicole suggested I check out your blog and I'm glad I did. I too am plus sized and waiting for the day when it will no longer be socially acceptable to bully, make fun of, or tease people based on their weight. I really believe it is the last form of socially accepted discrimination. I think more women need to come forward and show that just because you are plus size/curvy that doesn't mean you are lazy or disgusting, just as you pointed out. Anyways, I look forward to reading more!! I've also blogged about the issues a number of times. Here is my favorite post on the topic if you have time to check it out: http://briana2255.blogspot.com/2009/11/choose-to-be-yourself.html
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